I used to reason and rationalise with my negative thoughts / inner critic.
Seems like a good thing to do right?
Thought pops in…
“I’m not good enough”
(or anything similar)
I would then make a rational list of reasons it’s not true. But it never really helped. The thought would always (eventually) pop back into my brain
Then I would usually beat myself up for thinking negatively in the first place.
It was exhausting. Like holding a beach ball under water.
Now I let the thought be there , without attaching to it .
“Oh, there’s that old negative BS story”
I don’t have to “work” to get rid of it or change it. It has no power over me.
I no longer take my thoughts so seriously.
It’s like letting the beach ball float alongside of me, knowing it’s not part of me.
It’s so freeing .
Can you relate?
Do you try to reason with your thoughts?